The importance is to not take anything personally. The importance, or take things personally, is the highest expression of selfishness, because we believe that everything revolves around us. During the period of our education (or our domestication), all learned to take things personally. We believe that we are responsible for everything. I, me, me and always me!
We all live in our dream, our own mind and the rest are in a world completely different from that in which each of us lives. We take it personally when someone says, or assume they know what is in our world over and will try to impose their own. Even when a situation seems very personal, for example when someone insults you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What that person says, what it does and the views expressed by responding to the agreements it has was established in his own mind.
If someone gives you his opinion and say: 'Hey, you're too fat,' you do not take it personally, because the truth is that it relates to their own feelings, beliefs and opinions. That person tried to send their poison, and if you take it personally, so pick and becomes yours. Take things personally makes you easy prey for these predators. When you take things personally, you feel offended and react to defend your beliefs and creating conflicts. You make a mountain out of a molehill because they feel the need to be right and that others are wrong. We also strive to demonstrate that it has reason to give your own opinions. Likewise, anything you feel or do nothing more than a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own arrangements. What you say, what you do and you have views based on the agreements that you have established and have nothing to do with me.
What you think of me is not important to me and I can not take that personally. When people say to me: 'Michael, you're the best, I can not take it personally and neither do I when I said:' Michael, you're the worst. " I know that when you're happy, tell me: 'Michael, you're an angel! ". ‘Oh Michael,You are disgusting’. How could you say those things? ". Neither comments affect me because I know what I am. I do not need me to accept. I do not need anyone to tell me: 'Michael, how well you do it! "Or" How are you able to do that? ".
No, I do not take that personally. Think what they think, feel what you feel, I know it's your problem, not mine. It's your way of seeing the world. I can not take a personal way that you are talking to yourself and not me.
Create an entire movie in your mind and there you are the director, producer and actor. All other roles we have. It's your movie. The way you see that movie is based on the agreements you've set in life. Your viewpoint is something personal of yours. It is not the truth more than anyone of you. Therefore, if you are angry at me, I know this is about you. I am the excuse that you were angry. And you get angry because you are afraid, because you face your fear. If you did not have fear, do not be angry with me in any way. If you did not have fear, not hate me in any way. If you did not have fear, do not be sad or jealous in any way.
If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for any of those emotions. If you do not have any of those emotions, of course you feel good. When you feel good, everything around you is good. When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy. You love everything around you because you love yourself, because you like the way you are because you're happy with yourself because you feel happy with your life. Satisfied with the movie that you produce and you have established agreements with life. You are at peace and you are happy. Live in that state in which everything that is truly wonderful and beautiful. In this state that establishes a relationship of love with what you perceive at all times.
Go where you go, you find people who lie, but as your awareness grows, you'll find that you are lying to yourself. Do not expect others tell you the truth, because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust you and decide whether or not to believe what someone tells you. But if you are truthful with yourself, you save a lot of emotional pain.
When not taking anything personally to become a strong and robust habit, you avoid many upsets in life. Your anger, your jealousy and envy disappear, and, even your sadness goes away. A large amount of freedom comes when we do not take anything personally. If you keep this agreement, travel around the world with an open heart full and nobody hurt. Say: 'I love you' unless you fear rejection or ridicule. You can always follow your heart. Even in the hardest of times, experience happiness and inner peace. Stay in your state of bliss and not let anything affect you at all.
By Miguel Ruiz